I was talking to one of my best friends (she recently went through a bad break-up) and she told me the darndest thing: she found out that her ex's co-workers were making fun of him for being with her just because she is a chubby girl.
I don’t usually care about what other people think but this subject is very delicate to me. Why? Because all of my life I’ve struggled with low self esteem and being bullied just because I wasn’t the model type. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t stuff my face with tons of McDonalds, KFC and junk food (neither does she) it’s just the way I’m built (ok, I admit I am not a sport enthusiast, but this doesn’t mean that I or any other curvy/chubby girl has to be bullied or made fun of) I’m sorry, I didn’t know that our existence was making your (already f*cked up) life so miserable, please allow me not to give a flying fu*k… Ok, enough about what I think, you got the point… This is her story and here are a few words from her on this subject.
“It’s frustrating to know that you are being dumped just because others say shitty things about you. Just because people tell you “Why be with her when you can have someone better?” And by better, I mean someone with a model like body. We don’t beg for love just because we are chubby or because we are scared that we won’t find a person to love us just the way we are. There are millions of men that don’t care that you are curvy, on the contrary, they love it! I never thought that I couldn’t find somebody to love, or that I wouldn’t be capable of having the person I wanted. Why? Because underneath this “not so perfect package” there is a person with a lot of qualities, that can ass whoop a lot of models.
I've learned to ignore the bad things that some people say and sadly I also learned not to trust people that much. It’s incredible how fast some people can change and how fast they just replace you with a new shiny toy that after a day of use, breaks.
All I can say is that I don’t want this to happen to anybody, despite the way you look, how you think, what religion you are and what you like to eat. What is important is that you don’t change for anybody because, it is possible that one day you end up disappointed, in an empty room, crying.
And guess what? I’m writing this letter from the corner of another empty room, a song singing in the background and tears in my eyes but with my soul at peace, thinking that life goes on and I with it!”
That was her letter. I am proud that she opened herself like this, after what she’d been through, and that she gave me the ok to write her story in my blog, I know it wasn’t easy for her. But as she said, life goes on and I know she’ll be ok, because she’s a strong young woman.
If you have something to comment about this subject, or if you just want to share your story, please do so.
Bottoms up,
Bashful and curvy C
Oh, and I’ll just
leave this little song here… “Shake it! Shake it! Shake it! Shake it! Shake that healthy
butt” curvy ladies! :D
Tell them hun....tell theeemmm!!!! :D
ReplyDeleteOh I am hun, I am!! *gets those sleeves up and goes right to it*
DeleteInteresant. Daca baiatul s-a lasat influentat de barfe si asta a dus la despartire... e cam aiurea. Daca motivul a fost altul si el nu s-a lasat influentat, atunci vorbim doar de judecata unor colegi care au si ei problemele lor, invidia si frustrarea care se reflecta in "hai sa facem misto de altii, ca noi suntem frustrati si trebuie sa facem pe cineva sa se simta inferior ca sa ne simtim si noi superiori" Oamenii de calitate niciodata nu vor judeca ! Interesant. Daca baiatul s-a lasat influentat de barfe si asta a dus la despartire... e cam aiurea. Daca motivul a fost altul si el nu s-a lasat influentat, atunci vorbim doar de judecata unor colegi care au si ei problemele lor, invidia si frustrarea care se reflecta in "hai sa facem misto de altii, ca noi suntem frustrati si trebuie sa facem pe cineva sa se simta inferior ca sa ne simtim si noi superiori" Oamenii de calitate niciodata nu vor judeca !
ReplyDelete:)) Am postat din greseala de doua ori, probabil ca subconstientul meu a vrut sa se facamai bine inteles :))) iertare :*
ReplyDelete:)) Nu e panica, stai linistita... Mie mi-a spus ca el i-a povestit ca era sub un stres pentru ca ei faceau misto de ea si mereu ii ziceau lui "Frate, poti gasi una mai slaba ca asta!" Indiferent daca aveau problemele lor, ce pusca mea ii freca pe ei? Rezolvati-va problemele, nu stati sa faceti misto de altii... Pentru mine, nu au nici o scuza, nici ei ca faceau misto si nici el ca s-a lasat influentat de idioteniile astea in loc sa ii creasca niste perechi de oua si sa spuna "Dar lasati-ma in pace si vedeti-va de viata voastra!"
DeleteYou and your friend should be proud of what and how you are. :)
ReplyDeleteWe are and we all should be, no matter the size, race, religion :D ! But sometimes, it's hard being like that when you have to face all those idiots :)..But you won't see us giving up!
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